Lessons from a co-dependent Staffie
When my brother Dan died my parents inherited his newest child, Bella the staffie dog. Bella is a little odd, co-dependent and often hyperactive. I’ve been home a few weeks now and Bella and I, whether i’ve wanted to or not, have become close, very close. Such as:
When I sit in the couch
When I step away from the couch
and when I pop to the loo.
At first I thought it was annoying.
Really really annoying. When I tried to go for a ‘run’, she’d find new and interesting ways to trip me up.
I think my frustration was beginning to show. The other night when she jumped on the bed she refused to come up for what had become our regular cuddles. For a short while, Bella decided she was a little more independent.
And it got me thinking about human love. In so many relationships there is an imbalance between one who shows more love than the other. Often it is only after that love is taken away - after the affectionate one becomes tired of a lack of reciprocation - that the other realises how much they had enjoyed the rapture.
Next time I get a big sloppy kiss off Bella I might not give her a lick back, but I’ll definitely soak up a bit more of the heart behind it. I might give a bit more back to my human counterparts as well.